Be in God or out of God?

Ok now, we all know the benefits of being in God. However knowing that, are we still in or are we out? Heres the thing. We all know He died for us and doing so redeeming us on the cross. Saving us, forgiving us, loving us, ect. Now, He is demanding obedience from us, to abstain from carnal desires, and we do that in Him, with Him. Do we still stay in God or do we bail?