So Christians are you joined as one in the flesh, or the spirit in your marriage?

For Gods ways are that of the spirit and not the flesh. If you are not joined as one the flesh, tell me how his spirit or his ways are different then that of the flesh and the lust of it?(only one of a spiritual mind and not a carnal mind can answer this question) If you are a holy man walking with a wife, you must be in the spirit and joined as one in the spirit and you walk with heaven added unto you, for you sought out the kingdom of God and had it added unto you and his righteousness, and you must be able to put down lust, not say you need a form of it, and must be able to teach a way to sexually desire some one that is HOLY(a spiritual way).....if you did not seek out his kingdom and love being like the angels sexless(IF YOU MADE IT BY GRACE TO BEGIN WITH), you are joined as one in the flesh and lust of it, and are worldly people, knowing not the ways of God and his holy spirit, for his ways are forever. Just because the bible says what God has joined to together let no man tare apart, does not mean God joined you together, FOR HIS WAYS ARE OF THE SPIRIT...God also says he hands people over to homosexuality, does that mean he joins 2 men togetherer??Or he just allows it to happen, and sense he can stop it, what God joins togetherer let no man tare apart....but death will and your eyes should be open to death AND HEAVEN and piece of heaven being taken away from you. And you are all suppose to be Gods Chrildren and people living in the spirit...NOT THE FLESH.